Where am I going to live?
You probably feel sad and confused about your parents separating, but most of all you want to know what is going to happen to you. The best thing is for both parents to sit down with their children and tell them what they have decided to do.
There are no rules to say when you should spend time with each parent. It is up to your parents to decide but they might want to know what you think about it.
If you feel strongly that you want to live with one parent rather than the other, then you could tell both parents what you would like to happen, or you might want to talk to a friend or relative about what worries you. Usually it is up to your parents to make the final decision about these things.
Sometimes parents cannot agree where you should live. Then they can talk to a counsellor who may help them to decide. Counsellors have special training to help families try to work out problems.
The counsellor may also want to talk to you or perhaps you may want the counsellor to help tell your parents how you feel. That is okay. All you have to do is ask to see the counsellor.
Sometimes parents are so hurt and angry at each other that they still cannot agree. Then they ask a judge to make a decision.
Many things are hard to arrange if parents live a long way away from each other or if they stay angry at each other.
Judges might make decisions that parents find hard to make together. That might include when you see each parent.
It may be hard not to take sides while your parents are trying to sort things out because sometimes parents want others to see things the way they do and they don't want to be blamed for the separation.
Sometimes kids blame themselves but you have to remember it is not your fault. It takes two people to make a relationship work and there are usually many reasons why parents decide to separate.